It’s almost my 31st birthday and a little bit over a year of me doing this website. What a year it’s been. Since turning 30, my life took a pretty drastic turn in events.
After spending majority of my 20’s in jobs I hated, I decided to quit. I had enough. I was almost 30 years old and couldn’t stand the thought of spending another 40 years or more being miserable. It was time for a change. I was going to take over the role of the stay at home parent and spend some time doing what I wanted to do for a change. When my daughter and wife allowed it anyway.
It didn’t take long before I realised that I wanted to start writing again. I used to do it a lot when I was in my very early 20’s. I had a blog on google – I can’t recall what it was called, but I talked about basketball a lot. Surprise, surprise.
My biggest claim to fame was having one of my articles published in a Tasmanian newspaper. I was confident and hopeful that it would lead to more works being published. Alas, I was wrong. No matter, I’m back now.
I think I had been at home for all of 2-3 weeks before I started this site. Now, over 200 articles later, I am still going strong. I have expanded to talk about more than just basketball. I write about video games, fatherhood, movies and anything else that takes my fancy. I’ve even got a couple of books in the works!
Writing wasn’t the only forgotten passion that I got back in to. I started skateboarding again. Remembered that I loved professional wrestling. Drawing. Playing lots of different sports. Learning different handyman skills around the house. Cooking – I make absolutely everything from scratch now. Reading. Working out. So many things that I once loved, all coming back in to my life. Not to mention a little girl to share it all with!
Don’t get me wrong, it hasn’t been all sunshine and lollipops. I still have my bad days. My daughter loves to test my patience. We argue a lot. I struggle a lot with the isolation of being a stay at home parent, especially during a country that is often in a state of lockdown. I’m always tired. And sore. And there is never enough time in the day for all of things I want to do (and need to). Still, I think I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. At the very least, the happiest I’ve been in a damn long time.
I spent so long working jobs I hated that I had forgotten how to enjoy myself. Worse yet, I had forgotten myself. I had no idea who I was anymore. I was just a sad, empty shell. All of my energy went into working and I had no time for anything else, not even my little girl.
That’s not to say my 20’s were a waste. I watched a lot of TV, and I do love TV. I also met some good friends. My future wife. Got some money together to build our first house. I travelled the path that would eventually lead me to my daughter. And even though sometimes I despise her, I do like having her around.
I think the hardest part was spending all of my energy on work. As my 20’s rolled on, I gradually stopped skateboarding. Then stopped playing sport. Then socialising. Then writing. It was a gradual transition from a fun loving teenager, into a depressed working machine. I didn’t even realise it had happened.
Like everything in life, there were good parts and bad parts. My 20’s definitely weren’t a waste and I don’t regret them. Having so many bad days has just made me more motivated to make the most of my 30’s. I’m determined not to lose sight of who am I ever again. I still have my problems, like all of us. But I’m working through them and I am doing all I can to get the most out of my life. One year in, I think it is safe to say that I am doing just fine.
Today I even interviewed for a dream job of mine! Hopefully I land it. It will just be further proof that you are never too old to start chasing your dreams. With some hard work and luck, it can all work out. You are never too old, or too young. Life starts when you make it. Go grab your skateboard or your guitar or whatever you have wanted to do and just do it. Try some new things and remember that you work to live, not the other way around. Don’t let your situation define you. At the very least, try not to lose yourself on the journey.
Thanks for sharing in my journey so far. Hopefully the next year is just as much fun, and with a bit of luck (and more hard work), a larger audience is just around the corner.